I think there are a range of unrelated commentaries going on in this thread that could easily clash, mostly from miscommunications/misunderstanding, and turn into series of back and forth disagreeing about the proper ways to be.
So, please be careful.
People are sort of riffing off of different ideas and different interpretations and speaking in some (I'll say
slight) absolutes.
If I say, "Johnny was a jerk when I dealt with him last, therefore, while I will give him the ability to prove himself otherwise, I am not going to simply erase my history with that person"... there is nothing unreasonable about that.
If I say, "Moderators shouldn't hold a user's actions from elsewhere against them here", that's a reasonable and responsible assessment. A user here gets moderated for what they do
here. If anything were to spill out elsewhere, there can be a case-by-case basis (obviously... I'm talking about some sort of weird and/or foul stalkerish, bullying, abusive, etc. behavior against another member... some sort of extreme that I could see
possibly bring outside activity into play).
If I say, "giving a person the chance to change, and respect the possibility that they may have changed is a fair and reasonable way to approach things"... it does not remove the idea that sometimes you truly might have to cut someone out and/or stop giving them chances... and/or it is up to the individual person what
they do or do not wish to hold against a person.
If I say, "It's a bit illogical and unreasonable to expect and suggest that no previous interactions with a person should come into play within your head when dealing with them again"... it does not mean that I have no grasp of forgiveness or that I lack the reason to handle things respectfully.
If I say that "eternal grudges have become all too popular, common and easy for people to adopt" it does not mean that some people haven't earned animosity and that you may possibly be best off not dealing with such people from your past.
If I say that "I think another problem with people today is that they do not incur honest social responses/reactions to poor behavior, thus helping to perpetuate continued bad behavior by the original offender(s) and helping to breed an accepted standard of asshole-ness among society"... It does not mean that I don't also think that some people jump to overly-harsh grudges and dismissals.
I hope that made some sense to people and most find it agreeable (if you bothered to read).
I just see a lot of truths in here... that some people are starting to use as debating points
against other truths... when I believe that those truths don't cancel each other out or make the others untrue.
